Showing posts with label black girl magic. Show all posts
Showing posts with label black girl magic. Show all posts

Sunday, October 23, 2016

Phenomenal Woman by Maya Angelou

Maya Angelou is my favorite poet and one of my all-time favorite black queens. Her words reflect stories of black femininity, strength, beauty and authenticity. Below is one of my favorite poems of hers, Phenomenal Woman. Enjoy :)

Phenomenal Woman by Maya Angelou

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies. 
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size   
But when I start to tell them, 
They think I’m telling lies. 
I say, 
It’s in the reach of my arms, 
The span of my hips,   
The stride of my step,   
The curl of my lips.   
I’m a woman 
Phenomenally. 
Phenomenal woman,   
That’s me. 

I walk into a room 
Just as cool as you please,   
And to a man, 
The fellows stand or 
Fall down on their knees.   
Then they swarm around me, 
A hive of honey bees.   
I say, 
It’s the fire in my eyes,   
And the flash of my teeth,   
The swing in my waist,   
And the joy in my feet.   
I’m a woman 
Phenomenally. 

Phenomenal woman, 
That’s me. 

Men themselves have wondered   
What they see in me. 
They try so much 
But they can’t touch 
My inner mystery. 
When I try to show them,   
They say they still can’t see.   
I say, 
It’s in the arch of my back,   
The sun of my smile, 
The ride of my breasts, 
The grace of my style. 
I’m a woman 
Phenomenally. 
Phenomenal woman, 
That’s me. 

Now you understand 
Just why my head’s not bowed.   
I don’t shout or jump about 
Or have to talk real loud.   
When you see me passing, 
It ought to make you proud. 
I say, 
It’s in the click of my heels,   
The bend of my hair,   
the palm of my hand,   
The need for my care.   
’Cause I’m a woman 
Phenomenally. 
Phenomenal woman, 
That’s me.

Saturday, March 26, 2016

Color Me Brave: Ashley Shaw #politicalboss #womenpower #careerblog

Color Me Brave is a blog series that celebrates amazing women that are both successful in their careers and supportive towards other women trying to make it. This series was created especially for millennial women of color because I want them to see other women of color that have been in their place, walked in their shoes and persevered. Color Me Brave is full of fabulous women leaders with dynamic stories. Enjoy and join me in applauding these industry leaders. To contact our Color Me Brave leaders, please email hello@thecolormeb.com.

Ashley Shaw



Color Me Brave: Where did you attend college? Graduate school? 
Ashley Shaw: I attended the University of San Francisco for both undergraduate and graduate school.  I received a Bachelor's of Arts degree in Politics and a Masters in Public Affairs, specializing in Government Relations and Campaign Management. 

Color Me Brave: What do you do for a living? Where do you work?  
Ashley Shaw: I am a Field Coordinator at National Skills Coalition - In my current position I create and maintain multi-stakeholder coalitions that advocate for workforce policy changes at both the state and federal levels. That involves direct communication with state and federal policymakers and developing advocacy tools for partners in 30 plus states.

Color Me Brave: Why did you decide to take on this position? Is it part of a larger plan for you? 
Ashley Shaw: I decided to take on this position for a number of reasons. One, it allows me to remain engaged in policy efforts with the federal government and presidential administration. At the same time, I can continue my advocacy work across the country. My current position allows me to leverage nationwide contacts into networking opportunities that I can use to advance my career and skill sets. This position is definitely part of a larger plan.



Color Me Brave: Are you a member of any professional organizations? If so which ones? Ashley: Yes, I am a member of Washington DC Young Democrats. I am also a member of the Public Affairs Council and the Association of Government Relations Professionals. 

Color Me Brave: What are the biggest challenges you face in your job? In your industry? 

Ashley: One of the biggest challenges that I and my industry face is that we cover so many areas of interest; and, it’s a challenge to make sure everyone is on the same page. For example, we work with employers, community colleges, labor unions, community based organizations, federal government and workforce development boards. As someone who is constantly engaging with these different stakeholders, I have to be strategic in my approach.  Making sure that everyone doesn't go into his or her own agenda but that we are all on the same page. It takes a lot of strategic thinking and planning to get policies moving, and running successful grassroots campaigns.

Color Me Brave: How do you overcome obstacles in the workplace? 
Ashley: I first try to understand where there other person is coming from. I have learned that responding right away is the best way to be misunderstood and causes more problems. There is a famous quote that says seek first to understand then to be understood. I try to live by that quote and not jump to conclusions or respond with anger. 



Color Me Brave: What’s something you wish you could tell your college freshman self? 
Ashley: I would tell my college self to keep praying every day and seeking God's guidance. I would also tell myself to enjoy these moments, you will never get another chance to live care-free with your best friends and have fun with them 24/7.

Color Me Brave: How can women show their support for other women in the workplace? 
Ashley: I believe mentorship is a great way that women can show support. There is nothing better than taking a young woman under your wing and helping her find her passions, skill sets and setting out ways for her to achieve her dreams and goals. 

Color Me Brave: What do you do to relax with your girlfriends? 
Ashley: Brunch, Brunch, and Brunch! And after brunch we venture out and explore the many museums that DC has to offer. 


Color Me Brave: Anything else you want our millennial hustlapreneurs to know about you? 

Ashley: As a woman of God my faith is very important to me. I continue to thank God for how far he has brought me and I have faith in His promises that my future will be nothing but AMAZING!

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Continue reading the first issue of "Color Me Brave," and read about Danelle's advice to other millennial entrepreneurs.



A couple of our CMBrave honorees shared their wisdom and experiences during the #SheLeads2016 virtual conference. Our facilitators shared tips on networking, taking on leadership roles at work, self-care and more! Sign-up here and get access to interactive + fantastic workshops!

Thursday, February 4, 2016

Color Me Brave: Renita Francois #boss #womenpower #careerwoman

Color Me Brave is a blog series that celebrates amazing women that are both successful in their careers and supportive towards other women trying to make it. This series was created especially for millennial women of color because I want them to see other women of color that have been in their place, walked in their shoes and persevered. Color Me Brave is full of fabulous women leaders with dynamic stories. Enjoy and join me in applauding these industry leaders. To contact our Color Me Brave leaders, please email hello@thecolormeb.com.



Renita Francois



Color Me Brave: Where did you attend college? 
Renita: the University of California, Berkeley 

Color Me Brave: Graduate school? 
Renita: Johnson Graduate School of Management at Cornell University

CMB: What do you do for a living? Where do you work? 
Renita: I work for the Mayor of New York City as the Deputy Director of the Mayor's Action Plan for Neighborhood Safety, a $210 million dollar initiative focused on reducing violent crime and improving the quality of life in 15 of the highest crime public housing developments in New York City. I work out of the Mayor's Office of Criminal Justice where we focus on reducing unnecessary incarceration, driving down violent crime, increasing fairness and building safe and strong neighborhoods. 

CMB: Why did you decide to take on this position? Is it part of a larger plan for you? 
Renita: When I first started business school I thought, "as soon as I get my hands on my shiny new ivy league MBA, I'm going to run as fast as I can away from public service". I had worked in the sector for so long trying feverishly to make change but seeing little return on my investment and I was exhausted. 

I come from humble beginnings in south central Los Angeles, but was fortunate enough to be one of the ones who "made it". I stayed out of trouble, excelled in the classroom and fought my way into the ivory tower that is UC Berkeley. I was lucky. I was blessed; but I was not ignorant to the fact that success, for those of us who know what its like to grow up in a tough community, comes at a price. 

For me that price was never being able to turn my back on where and who I come from. That mindset is what drove me to work for programs like Section 8 with the housing authorities in both Los Angeles and Compton and for the Juvenile delinquency bench at Brooklyn Family Court. 

I have a heart for my people-- my people being black and brown folks, people who are struggling, those who are barely holding on...people fighting to just BE-- deep down I knew public service was where I was meant to be, but life is a process and I had several corporate doors slammed in my face before I realized that. 




When I found my current role, I was in despair. I had been home for a year after giving birth to my first child and felt the pressure to get back to the workforce. With every 'no' came the voices of doubt, betrayed by my own mind. I'd spend days thinking "you aren't smart enough," "no one is going to pay you that amount JUST because you have an MBA," "you're going to have to take an entry level job because your work experience is not valuable," "you don't even know what you want to do"...I could go on. I had literally been going on job interviews in heels in the summer in humid New York City through my ninth month of pregnancy and back again just weeks after delivering. The pressure was real! 

My support system, my husband, family and close friends, would keep telling me when the time was right something would come--but all I could think was, "can somebody tell these bills the time isn't right".  When I reached my lowest point mentally, my Black girl network came through in the clutch! A friend from undergrad, who I had sparingly spoken to over the previous 10 years, had been contacting me randomly over the recent few months. Neither of us really understood why. We would share small talk via text and one day we prayed together on the phone after talking about my situation. At the end of that conversation she offered to share my resume with the person who led the interview process for a new position she had recently accepted (she is an attorney), we didn't even know if anything was available. 



That person, the COO of our office, responded back saying that he thought I'd be a great fit for my current role. The rest is history. All of the things I anguished over, salary, title, level of responsibility, possibility for learning--were a non issue, but even more perfect than that I was making a return to the public sector in the way I had always dreamed; at the administrative level where I could truly make change. The cherry on top: it was a marriage between both my previous public sector lives- public housing and criminal justice; it was like it was all meant to be. I didn't have to deviate from the plan: Enhance my skillset. Continue forward progress. Never leave my people behind. Set an example for my daughter. 



Color Me Brave: Are you a member of any professional organizations? If so which ones? 
Renita: I am a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Incorporated which is just as much a professional organization as it is a sisterhood. I am currently a member of the Psi Lambda Omega Chapter in Brooklyn and it's great because just being in close proximity of women with so much class, so much know how, so much fire, so much passion, so much grit, so much experience, so much history-- you are bound to soak some of that up no matter what. I am also an alumni of Management Leadership for Tomorrow (MLT) and the Consortium for Graduate Study in Management (CGSM).

Color Me Brave: What are the biggest challenges you face in your job? In your industry? 
Renita: The biggest challenge I face in my job is being seen as the government. In my role I engage with the community a lot in an official capacity and often times it's hard to sit back and let people vent their frustrations on you without being able to say 

"I know!" "I understand!" "We are from the same place" "I am YOU!". 

It comes with the territory and it helps keep me sharp because it's a reminder to work hard, to do more, to make it so that folks are taken care of and no longer need to vent. It's a tall order, but I didn't take this role to back down from the challenge. On the other side of that, it is also a challenge to look at the crime data and hear about the ills plaguing communities of color, but I feel a responsibility to fight against people's desire to sit up high on their perch and look down low, making suggestions that may or may not work for those communities. It's a balance, but I am glad to have useful perspective on both sides to share. 



Color Me Brave: How do you overcome obstacles in the workplace? 
Renita: By powering through. Only way I know. I'll kick, scream and cry in private if I have to...vent to my support network-- but when I show up to work I'm there to do just that.

Color Me Brave: What’s something you wish you could tell your college freshman self? 
Renita: Yes! Pick a major that people will understand! (lol) I would tell her to explore different career paths and opportunities. Learn about what's out there. Get off your butt and go to those career fairs! That might be automatic for some folks, but growing up with NO college-educated adults in my life, I had no idea what I was supposed to be doing in college. I only knew how to get in and how to get out!

Color Me Brave: How can women show their support for other women in the workplace? 
Renita: In my office, us brown girls have a safe space that we communicate in where we mostly crack jokes; but we are also there as listening ears for vent and rant sessions. It stays between us. We don't even talk about the existence of the group in the office. We aren't always hanging together yapping at the water cooler. We rarely go to lunch together. 



It's like a secret network. Lowkey smiles and expressions as we pass each other throughout the day, but in our safe space, we're girls! We have each other's back. We give each other feedback. One of my main vices is my facial expression. If they walk past the conference room glass and see me making a crazy face, they let me know! It's all love. The best way to show support is to BE supportive! Not as easy as it sounds. 

Color Me Brave: What do you do to relax with your girlfriends? 
Renita: Drink wine and cocktails, laugh at nonsense, discuss celebrities and reality tv stars like we know them and talk mess... isn't that what we all do?? lol

Color Me Brave: Anything else you want our millennial hustlapreneurs to know about you? 
Renita: Nothing worth having comes easy. I've learned nothing more crucial in the past 18 months. I almost let the weight of the world smash me, but then I remembered who I am and WHOSE I am. Don't ever forget that...


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Continue reading the first issue of "Color Me Brave," and hear about another amazing career woman, Ashley Shaw, here...

Wednesday, February 3, 2016

February is For Lovers (and Hustlapreneurs!)

February is here! January flew by and the shortest month of the year is upon us! I'm feeling all types of good because it's February and 50 degrees in NYC! I've been praying for a California winter and He showed up!!!



Photo cred: memegenerator.net


The official day of love, Valentine's Day, is also in the month of February. It's the time to snuggle up with your significant other and shower them with love and chocolate. If you're single, it's the time to love yourself and hopefully enjoy time with people you do love. 

I want love to rule each part of my life this month, and I challenge you to do the same. How does it look when love manifests in aspects of your life? It looks like joy and happiness.

At Work

As a Hustlapreneur, there's a couple ways to show love and appreciation at work. A different kind of love than I express with my boo thang, of course. You can express love at work by making it a happier place to work. In your regular life, you're wonderful, nice and compassionate. Do you bring that same generosity and fun-loving personality to work? Try it! Being a good colleague will take you far, and it is a great way to network. Putting on a positive attitude will also make work more enjoyable for you. 

Because she's smiling at work. And WERKing it. 
In my personal life

There are plenty of resources out there to help you plan a creative Valentine's Day night out. But what about with family and friends? How can we focus on showing more love this month with them? In my last blog post, I shared my goals for 2016, including a goal to get closer to my siblings and extended family. One way I'm achieving this, is making sure I call home at least once a week. I've also planned out times when I will fly home to San Francisco. While home, I plan to do a little babysitting of my nieces and nephews. I don't have kids yet and helping my younger sister and niece with their children is an extremely helpful way to provide support and show them appreciation. With my friends, I'm doing the same thing. 

Me babysitting :) Her cheeks!!!

Like many millennials, I finished school and many of my friends dispersed all over the world. I made the move to New York, and have been here for about 3 years. I've been keeping up with them on facebook and instagram, but this month, I'm going to try calling them more and facetiming more. When I say, "we should grab drinks sometime," I'm actually going to schedule time. I love hanging out with my girlfriends and it's too easy to get caught up life and forget to take the time and show your appreciation for them. I also show love by helping them with career development, for free. Always got their back!


Finances
Yes, your finances! Showing love for your finances mean paying attention to them and making wise decisions. As millennials, we're far from retirement. However, we're at the perfect age to think strategically with our finances and purchase property, invest in businesses/projects, invest in our own professional development and more. It's also the perfect age to go out, party with friends and go on super cute dinner dates. You can do it all, but you have to be proactive and make plans for your money. I follow tips from a super helpful millennial that specializes in financial planning and making money! Check out www.amandaabella.com for resources!


Black History Month
Black History Month is every day in my life. I'm that one homegirl that will turn an annoying incident on the street into a history lesson about the fetishization of Sarah Baartman. I'm including a note about BHM because in addition to thinking about our past and honoring our ancestors, February is also a time to think about how the history has affected us today. In 2016, as I read news headlines, one thing is clear - POC must support each other and create a safe space for ourselves. The same kindness and appreciation we employ with our family and friends, we should extend to all, instead of letting these messages of hatred and intolerance influence our actions. 


WE CAN all get along! It's up to us to be the change we wish to see in the world. In February, I challenge you to step up and show love everywhere you go. I'm going to try my best! I need your help though. I'll be all over Periscope this month, sharing positive messages and I need you on with me! Follow me (at)courtney_ball6 and join our mailing list to get notifications of all my broadcasts. 


Xoxo,
Courtney 
Founder of @TheColorMeB

Thursday, November 19, 2015

Why #BlackGirlMagic Will Change the World

What exactly is #blackgirlmagic ? 

Clarissa Joan poses this question and other inquiries of race and womanhood in her article, "Black Girl Magic Defined: Do You Put Your Race before womanhood" in Madame Noire.
When I first saw the hashtag, I knew #blackgirlmagic was all about our limitless strength and power. Every day, I’m in awe of the goals, accomplishments and grace of black women --

My BFF, a Nigerian American, finished law school and is using her degree to start a natural hair care and education empire- #blackgirlmagic

Another bestie started her PhD in 2010 when we finished college; and despite roadblocks, she's defending this Friday- #blackgirlmagic I'll be there giving her a standing ovation because we celebrate each other - #blackgirlmagic

Me and my BFF at our first event collaboration! #naturalhaireverywhere
Check her out at whollyhair.com


Are black women more black than woman though? Personally, I'd say no. Historically and socially, black women have had a subordinate status in both their gender and racial social groups. During the women's movement in the early 20th century, white women advocated and benefited. The needs of black women were not included. Many black women including myself and Alice Walker have felt ostracized in the feminist movement and identify more as a womanist. Being a woman is incredible but as a black woman, I don't see myself in the American feminist movement. Furthermore, historically and currently, black women take a backseat in the fight for black rights and liberties. An example is President Obama's My Brother's Keeper initiative. Don't get me wrong, it is an incredible program and much needed; but black girls are not included.

We will support and contribute to the program’s success though because that's #blackgirlmagic. In both our identity groups, our needs are secondary, so we've learned (and are taught) to create our own opportunities and support each other through it. This past Friday, I experienced an amazing #blackgirlmagic moment.  

Marissa Germain of the Millennial Takeover and I hosted a happy hour in Washington, DC for millennial women. Most of us did not know each other but as soon as we met, it was like we were old friends. We laughed, talked, shared our weekly accomplishments and really enjoyed ourselves. I left the meet-up feeling inspired and motivated. 

A little grainy but you see the magic :)!!!
It was really encouraging to spend time with women that understand and empathize with my journey. Since I was on such sisterhood high after the event, I didn't learn of the Paris attacks until Saturday morning.

Heartbreaking. Devastating. Evil. My heart goes out to everyone affected by these horrific crimes. I pray the culprits are brought to justice, by any means necessary. 

However, I'm happy I learned of the news after experiencing a night of #blackgirlmagic. Being around these women reminded me that we have the power to change the world. At a time when we're consistently seeing unprecedented acts of violence and terrorism, we can be the change we want to see. How? By continuing to be exemplary role models in our community and at home. As mothers, aunts, sisters, girlfriends and cousins, we will continue to show love and how to love to the next generation and our peers. As successful career women, we'll teach the next generation tenacity, perseverance and how to be a contributing member of society. 

We'll do this with grace and integrity because that's what we do. That's #blackgirlmagic. Our CMB community it's full of #blackgirlmagic and I'd love for you to join it. Click here to join our mailing list!